Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Cooking: Eggplant Recipe

I watched the Ready Steay Cook program this afternoon and learnt recipe on how to cook eggplant with two methods http://readysteadycook.ten.com.au/7843.htm


1. Sweet and sour eggplant recipe
Ingredients:
1 eggplant, large dice
1 red onion, diced
1 red chili, finely sliced
1 green chili, finely sliced
2 cm ginger, peeled, grated
¼ cup white balsamic vinegar
2 Tbs brown sugar
1 lime, juiced
2 Tbs balsamic
1 Tbs Ayam fish sauce
1 Tbs Ayam palm sugar
1 green capsicum, seeded, sliced

Method:
1 Heat an oiled wok over a high heat, cook the eggplant for 2-4 minutes. Add the onion, chili, ginger and cook a further 2-4 minutes.
2 Combine the white balsamic, sugar, lime juice, balsamic, fish sauce and palm sugar. Add to the work and cook and reduce. Add the capsicum and cook 1-2 minutes.
3 Spoon into a bowl to serve.


2. Steamed eggplant recipe
Ingredients:
1 eggpplant
fish sauce
balsamic vinegar
fried onion
sugar- not sure which type, brown sugar should be fine

Method:
1.Steam the eggplant
2. Fry the onion
3.Cook the sauce- fish sauce, vinegar, brown sugar
3. Place the eggplant on the plate, sprinkle onion and few spoons of the cooked sauce to serve.


I would like to share my favourite recipe of eggplant as well; found it from internet:

3.Grilled eggplant with honey and balsamic vinegar

1. Marinate the eggplant with garlic powder, honey and balsamic vinegar plus a little salt and white pepper.
2. Grill the eggplant untill it cooked and ready for serve.

Saturday, April 7, 2012

Adele - Someone Like You- Meaningful song

Adele - Someone Like You - BRIT Awards 2011

This is a beautiful song, I got it from fb link. Perhaps I can recommend it to my client =P


I heard, that your settled down.
That you, found a girl and your married now.
I heard that your dreams came true.
Guess she gave you things, I didn't give to you.

Old friend, why are you so shy?
It ain't like you to hold back or hide from the lie.

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited.
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it.
I'd hoped you'd see my face & that you'd be reminded,
That for me, it isn't over.

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best, for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remember you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah.

You'd know, how the time flies.
Only yesterday, was the time of our lives.
We were born and raised in a summery haze.
Bound by the surprise of our glory days.

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it.
I'd hoped you'd see my face & that you'd be reminded,
That for me, it isn't over yet.

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remember you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead", yay.

Nothing compares, no worries or cares.
Regret's and mistakes they're memories made.
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remembered you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you.
I wish nothing but the best for you too.
Don't forget me, I beg, I remembered you said:-
"Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead"
Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead, yay yeh yeah

Adele Someone Like You lyrics found on http://www.directlyrics.com/adele-someone-like-you-lyrics.html



Sunday, June 19, 2011

Life Lesson

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvalKH68vZ8&NR=1&feature=fvwp


I love this learning english series on youtube. The text below are copied from the link about sad/happiness. How true it is. It is easier to grow up as a mature adult through hardship but not when you are laying in a cosy bed..

It would be fair to say that we all go through times when things seem bad. People can sometimes let you down. People have the ability to say things that make you unhappy. Events and circumstances may come along and destroy your plans for future.

As poet Stephen Spender once wrote: "You must live through the time when everything hurts. "

Life comes with no guarantees or promises.

The sunny days of contentment can only be truely appreciated through the dark gloomy nights of despair.

For without sadness, we would never really know what it is like to be truely happy.

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Richard Rohr's talk- his list of five promises that define true adulthood is what he says gives a person the ability to live in the world as a grown up.

Five things Every adult should know......
1. Life is hard.
2.You are not that important.
3. Your life is not about you.
4. You're not in control.
5.You are going to die.

Friday, June 17, 2011

I Believe in You- IL Divo & Celine Dion

A meaningful song (English/French song). I received this song few years ago from my friend. It was highly recommended by her as a nice song. I did not think so at that moment, only now I understand the meaning of the lyrics.


Lonely, the path you have chosen
A restless road, no turning back
One day you will find your light again
Don't you know
Don't let go be strong
Follow your heart
Let your love lead through the darkness
Back to a place you once knew
I believe, I believe, I believe in you
Follow your dreams
Be yourself, an angel of kindness
There's nothing that you cannot do
I believe, I believe, I believe in you

Tout seulTu t'en iras tout seulCœur ouvertA l'universPoursuis ta quêteSans regarder derrièreN'attends pasQue le jourSe lèveSuis ton étoileVa jusqu'où ton rêve t'emporteUn jour tu le toucherasSi tu crois, si tu crois, si tu croisEn toiSuis ta lumièreN'éteins pas la flamme que tu portesAu fonds de toi souviens-toiQue je crois, que je crois, que je croisEn toi

Someday I'll find you
Someday you'll find me too
And when I hold you close
I know that it's true
Follow your heart
Let your love lead through the darkness
Back to a place you once knew
I believe, I believe, I believe in you
Follow your dreams
Be yourself an angel of kindness
There's nothing that you cannot do
I believe, I believe, I believe in you
I believe, I believe, I believe in you (x2)

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Mood swings of bipolar patients can be predicted, study shows

Mood swings of bipolar patients can be predicted, study shows

Currently Iam writing a report about a patient who is having bipolar symptoms. He has job, family related stress and is having an episode of depression. Again, google is my best friend for helping me to come out with better ideas to write assignment =)
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ScienceDaily (Apr. 19, 2011) — The future mood swings of people with bipolar disorder can be predicted by their current thoughts and behaviour, a study published April 19, 2011 has found.


Psychologists from the Universities of Manchester and Lancaster say their findings are important because they mean talking therapies, like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), could prove effective treatments for the condition.

People with bipolar are prone to extreme mood swings that take them from great emotional highs to the pits of depression; the cause of these mood swings is often put down to the patients' genes and biology rather than their own thoughts and actions.

For this latest study -- published in the American Psychological Association journal Psychological Assessment -- the researchers followed 50 people with bipolar disorder for a month. The team found that the patients' thinking and behaviour predicted their future mood swings even when their medical history had been accounted for.

"Individuals who believed extreme things about their moods -- for example that their moods were completely out of their own control or that they had to keep active all the time to prevent becoming a failure -- developed more mood problems in a month's time," said study lead Dr Warren Mansell, in Manchester's School of Psychological Sciences.

"In contrast, people with bipolar disorder who could let their moods pass as a normal reaction to stress or knew they could manage their mood, faired well a month later. These findings are encouraging for talking therapies -- such as CBT -- that aim to help patients to talk about their moods and change their thinking about them."

A new form of CBT, known as TEAMS (Think Effectively About Mood Swings), is being developed by Dr Mansell and colleagues, at The University of Manchester. It aims to improve on previous therapies by focusing on current problems, like depression, anxiety and irritability, and helping patients to set goals for their life as a whole.

The aim of this new approach is to encourage patients to accept and manage a range of normal emotions -- like joy, anger and fear -- and a controlled trial is about to start following a successful case series of the TEAMS approach.

How to embrace laughter, & Quick Tips for Reframing

How to embrace laughter.

http://www.theemotionmachine.com/the-psychology-of-laughter

Here are some suggestions of things you can do to embrace laughter:

  • Learn to laugh at yourself. Seriously, laughing at your mistakes allows you to take them less seriously and not get so hung up on the little things.
  • Learn to crack jokes about stressful situations rather than complaining.
  • Keep stuff around you that lightens the mood. A toy on your desk or a funny poster in your room can become a daily reminder to not be so serious all of the time.
  • Make games out of things and be more playful, especially with children or pets who appreciate the attention.
  • Watch a funny movie or TV show.
  • Find one or two comics to follow on a daily basis. Read them during your morning coffee or on the train to work.

Quick Tips for Reframing

http://www.theemotionmachine.com/quick-tips-for-reframing

Reframing is to look at a situation or experience from another perspective so that we can learn something new or think and feel better about a past event. Some ways we can reframe include:

Turning a negative into a positive.

If something bad or painful happens in our lives, we can often reframe that experience as something that made us a stronger or smarter person in the end. Failures can be seen as learning experiences. Psychologists are also now identifying something known as “post traumatic growth,” where those who go through trauma end up more resilient and optimistic. Being able to find the good in the bad is a key characteristic for any healthy mind.

Broadening your perspective.

In the moment, a bad experience can feel like the end of the world. But when you look back on it after a week, month, year, or even decade, the event often loses a lot of its affect. How many of you can look back on an experience you once thought was really terrible, and now it seems like nothing? Sometimes we wonder why we ever got so upset in the first place. Imagine yourself 20 years down the road, will you care as much about those same things that are troubling you now? When we broaden our perspective, things don’t often seem as important as we like to make them out to be.

The “things could be worse” perspective.

No matter how bad things are for you, there is almost always an alternative situation that is even worse. Imagining how things can be worse can help us be more grateful toward the things we do have, and not necessarily focus on just the things we lost. This attitude works especially well for aspects of life that are outside of our control. Maybe your house burned down and you lost everything, that is an awful situation, but you can reframe it and think “at least I still have my friends and family.” Maybe you are currently going through some financial troubles, but does it really compare to the lives of those in poor third world countries? Imagining how things can be worse is a great way to change your perspective and be more thankful for what you have.

You can read more about this kind of reframe (from the perspective of Stoicism) here.

Empathic perspective-taking.

Empathic perspective-taking is a type of reframe where we imagine ourselves experiencing a situation from another person’s perspective. By stepping into someone else’s shoes we can get a better idea of their intentions and why they acted the way they did. This can be a very useful skill for understanding why people sometimes do things that hurt us (intentional or not), and we can better learn to forgive by letting go of resentment, grudges, and other negative feelings we hold against others.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

JUST FOR TODAY!

10 little thoughts from Dale Carnegie’s book: How to stop worrying and start living:

1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.

3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

5. Just for today I will exercise my soul : I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out.

6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticise not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.

7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

8. Just for today I will have a programme. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry and indecision.

9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.

10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

If we want to develop a mental attitude that will bring us peace and happiness, here is Rule 1: Think and act cheerfully, and you will feel cheerful.

I don't want to miss a thing-lyrics

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing
Watch you smile while you are sleeping
While you're far away and dreaming
I could spend my life in this sweet surrender
I could stay lost in this moment forever
Where every moment spent with you is a moment I treasure

Don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
Cause I'd miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing
Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing

Lying close to you feeling your heart beating
And I'm wondering what you're dreaming
Wondering if it's me you're seeing
Then I kiss your eyes
And thank God we're together
I just want to stay with you in this moment forever
Forever and ever

I don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
Cause I'd miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing
Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing

I don't want to miss one smile
I don't want to miss one kiss
I just want to be with you
Right here with you, just like this
I just want to hold you close
Feel your heart so close to mine
And just stay here in this moment
For all the rest of time Yeah yeah yeah

I don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
Cause I'd miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing
Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing

I Don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
Cause I'd miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing
Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you babe
And I don't want to miss a thing

Don't want to close my eyes
I don't want to fall asleep
And I don't want to miss a thing


More lyrics: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/a/aerosmith/#share

Saturday, May 14, 2011

How do you use the word being in english grammar? Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_use_the_word_being_in_english_grammar#ixzz1MHe1GGEH

The word being has several forms: am, is, was, were, be, being, been. In general the word is used to mean that something is currently in a particular state. For example, I might say that "You are being annoying" or that "It is raining outside. I will give some examples below of the different uses:

am (about oneself): I am at home. I am friendly. I am a person.

is: (about an object other than oneself): She is friendly. It is snowing outside. Pizza is a tasty food.

was: (past form of am and is). I was walking home. She was friendly but now she is mean.

were: (plural of was): They were walking to the store.

to be: (this is the non-conjugated form of the verb, it means to exist or to be in a certain state) To be good at archery, one must practice a lot. You should be good, and you will receive a treat.

being: (this indicates that something is in the on-going, present state of existing or having a given property) You are being silly. Being good at something takes work.

been (indicates that something has been ongoing in the past and up through the present): The stock prices have been plummeting for the past week. The Mets have really been on a bad streak lately.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

How to reset hibernate mode in Vista

http://www.howtogeek.com/howto/windows-vista/re-enable-hibernate-option-in-windows-vista/

I often have to reset this hibernate option for my precious laptop as I accidentally delete everything to boost up the memory (I dislike the slow speed..., which is distrupting my work). So I have decided to copy into my blog instead, although this piece of technical knowledge has nothing to do with psychology/life.. just to make myself convenient, instead of searching google again =)

An alternative method with more steps was suggested by Shane in the comments. If the above doesn’t fix your problem, you can use these steps.

  • Go to the command prompt icon in the Start menu under Accessories and right click the icon: click “Run as administrator”.
  • Paste: “powercfg.exe /hibernate on” and hit Enter and also paste “powercfg -h on” and hit enter just to be safe.
  • Open Control Panel and type in “Hibernate” in the Search.
  • Click “Turn hibernation on or off”
  • Click “Change advance power settings”
  • Scroll to and expand the “Sleep” option.
  • Select “Off” to the “Allow hybrid sleep” option.
  • Scroll to and expand the “Power buttons and lid” option.
  • Select “Hibernate” for the “Sleep button action” option. 10. Select “Hibernate” for the “Start menu power button” option.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

The measure of the human intelligence

(copied it from my course notes about intelligence under psychological assessment & psychopathology)

 There is a common belief that human intelligence is something that can be
defined, measured, and neatly described with a number.
 To find this holy number, the educational gods (testing services, publishers,
schools, and the like), have declared that humans shall take a standardized test,
after which, the number of test errors shall be subtracted from the total number
possible and a score given unto them. Thus sayith the gods.
 This score is then compared to the scores of a large group of humans who are of
the same age. These humans are ranked according to where their scores fall
within this same-age group.
 They are then given a percentile ranking that shows how many same-age
humans scored above and below them. Finally, numbers are assigned to each
percentile rank and this number is said to indicate intelligence (Walters &
Gardner, 1985).

Those humans who have bigger numbers are thought to have more of it. They are
the chosen ones, the sheep. Those humans who have smaller numbers are thought
to have less of it. These are the unsaved, the goats. This sacred number, this very
holy entity is called intelligence quotient or IQ.
 From this perspective high atop a mountain, intelligence is a twodimensional
entity, existing on a paper plane with only height and width. In this
numerated, two-dimensional world, small-numbered students are put in slower
lines, but then we wonder why they don't progress as fast. High-numbered students
are put in a faster line and allowed entrance into special programs and fine highnumbered
schools.
 These high-numbered students come out of these high-numbered schools and
become high-numbered people, except now their numbers have to do with bank
accounts, investment portfolios, and other such things. These high-numbered
people mate and have high-numbered children, and the circle of life continues.

Andrew P. Johnson, Ph.D.
Professor, Holistic Education
Department of Educational Studies: Special Populations
Minnesota State University, Mankato
Mankato, MN 56001

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/positive-psychology/2011/04/7-factors-that-predict-positive-aging/


The increasing number of older adults will be staggering over the next two decades. In order to have positive well-being, it is paramount that “baby-boomers,” as well as future generations, consider the consequences of their lifestyle on mental and physical health.

This means having a healthy dose of positive emotions, the absence of physical disability, and general life-satisfaction as the people reach the second half of their life.

What can people do then to support their positive aging?

There are large individual differences in physical and cognitive functioning of older adults. Negative stereotypes about aging may lead older adults to negatively interpret the natural changes that accompany aging and develop limiting expectations.

Though, older adults who engage in regular physical and mental activity, as well as having a positive attitude, improve the odds of successful aging. They tend to be healthier and live longer than adults who are sedentary and don’t stimulate themselves intellectually.

Research has also revealed seven factors that predict positive aging.

Not being a smoker or stopping smoking young

If research and conventional knowledge has revealed anything, it’s that smoking ultimately has negative long term consequences. In a research review by George E. Valliant, the single most predictive factor for healthy physical aging is heavy smoking before age 50. By stopping smoking by age 45 there is no significantly apparent effects seen by age 70 or 80.

Adaptive coping style

The ability to deal with challenges when they arise and find value in the hardships of life is a major factor in healthy aging. To have positive mental health it is essential to respond to stress in a proactive and nourishing manner, as opposed to a damaging and toxic manner, such as addictive behaviors.

Absence of alcohol abuse

When it comes to physical and mental illness there is a strong relationships with alcohol abuse. Alcohol abuse is a major cause of relationship, work, and general health problems. By removing alcohol and other substance abuse healthy aging is much more likely.

Healthy weight

Having a normal body mass index (BMI), which is the approximation of normal body fat based on someone’s height and weight, is another factor in healthy aging. Not being significantly overweight provides the means to have greater independence and mobility in aging, as well as preventing the major health issues that come with obesity, such as stroke, coronary artery disease, and type 2 diabetes.

Stable marriage

Relationships are a vital part of emotional health. Relationships offer us support, joy, and recreation. When people have stable relationships without divorce, separation, and serious conflict it offers a greater chance of enduring happiness and satisfaction.

Exercise

With all the other notions previously discussed about physical and mental health, incorporating physical exercise is an important factor to bring everything together. Having at least 30 minutes of exercise 3-4 days a week can really improve mental and physical health.

Years of education

Overall years of education have been shown to relate to knowledge of self-care, perseverance, and future orientation. Having a focus on future health and well-being is important in taking a proactive approach to positive aging. More education relates to healthy habits and behavior that improve physical health, and a general knowledge that can translate into increased awareness of how we relate to others.

There are many other factors involved with positive aging, though working to keep an active and engaging lifestyle is the major routine to continue or reach. The assumption that getting older is dismal and humdrum doesn’t apply as long as we take our lives into our own hands and take effort to better ourselves and make personal growth a life-long mission.

Reference

Linley, P. A., & Joseph, S. (2004). Positive Psychology in Practice. New Jersey: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Saturday, April 23, 2011

I see you- Avatar

Walking through a dream, I see you
My light and darkness breathing hope of new life
Now I live through you and you through me, enchanted
I pray in my heart that this dream never ends

I see me through your eyes
Breathing new life, flying high
Your love shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life as a sacrifice
I live through your love

You teach me how to see all thats beautiful
My senses touch your world
I never pictured
Now I give my hope to you, I surrender
I pray in my heart that this world never ends

I see me through your eyes
Breathing new life, flying high
Your love shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life
I offer my love for you

And my heart was never open
And my spirit never free
To the world that you have shown me
But my eyes could not envision
All the colours of love and of life evermore,
Evermore

I see me through your eyes
Breathing new life, flying high
Your love shines the way into paradise
So I offer my life as a sacrifice
I live through your love
I live through your life

I see you

Monday, February 21, 2011

Only You- The Fling Pickets

I love this song very much. Got to know this song from Malaysia Tv advertisment regarding 'father's day' many years ago. Someday I listened it through colleague's radio and managed to trace down the title of this song. Love the relaxing music and simple lyrics =)

Only You- The Fling Pickets

Looking from a window above
It's like a story of love
Can you hear me.
Came back only yesterday
Moving further away
Want you near me.

* ( All I needed was the love you gave
All I needed for another day
All I ever knew
Only you )

Sometimes when I think of your name
And it's only a game
And I need you
Listening to the words that you say
Getting harder to stay
When I see you

*(all i needed....)
ba da da dum, ba da da dum da da da dum da da da da da da dum
*(all i needed...)

This is gonna take a long time
And I wonder what's mine
Can't take no more
Wonder if you'll understand
It's just the touch of your hand
Behind a closed door

* (all i needed..)
ba da da dum ba da da dum..(fade out)

Sunday, May 9, 2010

100 Simple Secrets of Happy People

(copied from a book)

1.Your life has purpose and meaning
2.Use a strategy for happiness
3. you don't have to win every time
4. your goals should be aligned with one another
5.Choose your comparisons wisely
6.Cultivate friendships
7. turn off the tv
8.accept yourself- unconditionally
9.remember where you came from
10.limit yourself to thinking about one subject as you lie down to sleep
11. friendship beats money
12. Have Realistic expectations
13. Be open to new ideas
14.Share with others how important they are to you
15. If you are not sure, guess positively
16. Believe in yourself
17.Don't believe in yourself too much
18. Don't face your problems alone
19.age is not to be feared
20.develop a household routine
21. don't be overprotective
22. Pay attention. You may have what you want
23. Don't let Your religious beliefs fade
24.Do what you say you are going to do
25.Don't be aggressive with your friends and family
26.Root for the home team
27.Don't confuse stuff with success
28.every relationship is different
29.Don't think "what if...?"
30.Volunteer
31.If you can't reach your goals, your goals will hurt you
32. Exercise
33. Little things Have Big meanings
34. It's not what happened, it's how ou think about what happened
35.Develop some common interests with loved ones
36. Laugh
37. Don't let your entire life hinge on one element
38. Share of yourself
39. Busy is better than bored
40. Satisfaction is relative
41. learn to use a computer
42. try to think less about the people and things that bother you
43. eat some fruits every day
44. Keep your family close
45. enjoy what you have
46. think in concrete terms
47. be socially supportive
48. don't blame yourself
49. be a peacemaker
50. cherish animals
51. make your work a calling
52. never trade your morals for your goals
53. don't pretend to ignore things your loved ones do that bother you
54. get a good night's sleep
55. buy what you like
56.accomplish something every day
57. be flexible
58. events are temporary
59. be your own fan
60. join a group
61. be positive
62. there will be an end, bu you can be prepared
63. how we see the world is more important than how the world is
64. keep a pen and paper handy
65. help the next person who needs some minor assistance
66. take care enot to harshly criticize family and friends
67. some people like the big picture, and others like the details
68. do things you are good at
69. go visit your neighbor
70. smile
71. don't accept tv's picture of the world
72. you always have a choice
73. be agreeable
74. don't ignore one part of your life
75. listen to music
76. let your goals guide you
77. use your job positively
78. don't forget to have fun
79. believe in ultimate justice
80. reminisce
81. be conscientious
82. don't dwell on unwinnable conflicts

to be continued...