Alone~ random thoughts

"We are alone, we live alone, we die alone.
Only through our love and friendship, we can create the illusion for the moment that we are not alone."

Orson Welles (1915-1985)
American motion picture actor, director, producer, writer

I saw these words posted on the wall of Esplanade Library while waited for the free mini concert (piano, violin & cello).

The words touched my heart. So, i took out my pen and newspaper (that is the only choice) and jotted down. Recently, my sister took a picture for me ~ portrait of being alone or loneliness. At that point, I just felt that it was fun to take photos with different postures. Then, I suggested to take a view of my back. Woh, I just love it, more natural look rather than the typical smiling face of pictures.

At the beginning of a new life or close to the death, we come to this world and leave this world alone. Sometimes people tend to worry too much about daily hassle, let it be work, studies, family, relationship...etc. We may put too much emotion in something else, and later on realise that it is just a small matter. Things are for us to experience but not to understand. We afraid to lose face, not being competitive to fight with others... and the end of the day, people tend to worry for own problem rather than bother your stuff.

I always love writing. I appreciate my readers to look beyond words. For instance, recently I wrote about an article about dad's childhood on Father's Day. Then, the response was overwhelming ~ I know I am not a popular blogger, but I was very happy to learn that one of my reader felt the urge to write for her dad too. Later, I saw her dad had left comment in her blog. This is what I treasure - the power of a person's words influence others to make a change of his or her life, by writing an article to express feeling and thought.

I think I am getting out of topic...haha. Alone is not neccessarily means lonely, can be viewed as freedom, independent. However, for psychiatry fields, being alone is not good for depressive patients, as they may getting depress and make their clinical symptoms worsen. I treasure the time when I am alone at home, let it be reading newspaper, cooking, watching tv or shopping alone following my own timing. So relax.

In Singapore, I treasure the availability of free music concerts throughout the year, ranged from pop music, Chinese Orchestra to Symphony Orchestra. I always attend these concerts/shows alone, occasionally I get my music friend to companion me. It is not easy to expect people to appreciate this kind of music, so sad :(

I don't know what I write now, no sense of direction to organise my writing. This piece of writing is a bit like so called "bo-liao" kind. Initially I created this blog is meant for serious readers who want to know more about psychology and life. Right now, I just feel like want to write some casual stuff. Hopefully you don't mind :) Good night.

Preference for sons in Asia could have severe social consequences, UNFPA studies warn

http://intranet.unescap.org/esid/psis/population/popheadline/321/art3.asp

Prenatal son selection in several Asian countries could result in severe social consequences – such as a surge in sexual violence and trafficking of women – in the coming years, according to new studies commissioned by the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA).

As girls and women become outnumbered by men as a result of ultrasound or amniocentesis to determine the sex of foetuses and abort unwanted females, more males will be unable to find wives and pressures to conform and comply will increase, the studies noted.

“Sex ratio imbalances only lead to far-reaching imbalances in the society at large”, UNFPA Executive Director, Thoraya Ahmed Obaid said in a statement delivered by Deputy Executive Director Purnima Mane at the Fourth Asia Pacific Conference on Reproductive and Sexual Health and Rights held in Hyderabad, India from 29 to 31 October (see page 4).

“And in response, we must carry forward the message that every human being is born equal in dignity, worth and human rights.”

Preference for sons is deeply rooted in many Asian countries for both cultural and economic reasons. If dowries must be paid, daughters could be viewed as a liability, and older parents typically rely on their sons for support and to perform last rites or ancestor worship.

The above-cited studies (available from http://www.unfpa.org/gender/case_studies.htm) warn that unless Viet Nam and Nepal adopt response measures, they, too, will face problems similar to those of India and China, the countries with the most dramatic imbalance between the births of boys and girls.

In China, 120 males – and up to 130 in several provinces – were born for every 100 females in 2005, while in India, the 2001 census revealed that 108 males – and up to 120 in some northern and western areas – were born for every 100 females.

“Viet Nam is in almost the same situation now as China was 10 years ago,” the studies said, adding that the South-East Asian nation’s sex ratio at birth could become gravely imbalanced within a decade.

Meanwhile in southern Nepal, researchers found that most people are aware that they could access ultrasound clinics and abortion providers in India willing to defy laws prohibiting sex selection. In both Viet Nam and Nepal, researchers interviewed officials and held focus groups, concluding that the preference for sons was pervasive, and that those who wanted to avoid bearing daughters could do so easily.

Currently in China, the “Care for Girls” programme which combines public education with practical steps such as bolstering support for older people could soon be rolled out nationally, and in India, civil society groups are making great efforts to raise public awareness and new laws are being codified to slash discriminatory inheritance rules and curb domestic violence.

Similar initiatives are necessary to stem the tide of the issue in both Viet Nam and Nepal, the studies said.